I've come back to this post to say thank you, Breanne: the phrase "You’re not doing anything wrong. It’s just hard." has helped me so much over the almost two months since I read it. Thank you!
Actually, supplements, chiropractic care and boundaries have changed my life! I totally get what you're saying, but perhaps life isn't all as hard as you're making out - perhaps you're neurodivergent, and/or struggling with depression.
Hey Jessica, I think you missed the footnote at the end of this post. Please read it. Your compassion and grace would be appreciated instead of making assumptions about a person whose medical history you don’t know. Thank you. ❤️
I did read the footnote before posting 😄 I think there is space on Substack for all opinions, and would advise that maybe you turn comments off on specific posts if you don't want to hear counter-comments?? I started chiropractic care a few weeks ago and am LOVING IT, it's made such a difference to an injury from a broken collarbone.
I welcome differing opinions but you didn’t offer a counter-comment. If you read the footnote, you’d see that I mentioned where chiropractor care has been helpful to me as well (I’m glad it’s helped you too!) so you were just agreeing with what I’d already stated.
What I took issues with—and have a boundary against—is someone coming to my page to attempt to diagnose me and say that “perhaps my life isn’t all that hard” when they know neither my health history or my life. It’s intrusive and unhelpful. Please respect that you don’t know me and I didn’t invite comments on my health or life. I hope you have a lovely day.
So honest and needed-Life is hard. I agree that there is a culture that says —if you do just do this, life will be better. And it does lead to guilt and shame because we don’t measure up.
But that’s why Jesus came and died for us-we can’t keep the Law (or our own rules), but He died for all our sins and failures so that we can live in newness of life-not a life focused on me, but on Him. A life of grateful humility, thankfulness and trust. A life where we are yoked with Christ, sharing in His suffering and in His glory. It is the already-not yet phase of life-we are already in Christ through faith, but not yet free of this earthly tent. Thanks for your honest writing.
Dear Lord, thank you for leading me to this reflection. I was just crying in bed at 3:30 in the afternoon about how tired I was of carrying the apparent responsibility for the well being of myself and everyone around me. I think I'll just try living instead of holding onto responsibility white-knuckled for a while.
Ummm can I like this more than once?! SO GOOD. And so true: "This is the tension we have to live with; fighting to erase it completely is wringing us dry." Thank you for speaking such truth with such grace and nuance, Breanne! I needed it today.
So, so refreshing. Just what I needed to hear today. Sometimes there are just way too many online voices; so much chatter. Stopping by Substack and reading authentic pieces like this is such a lovely shift.
I love the quote “Hard is not the same thing as bad” from Abbie at m is for mama. I got the book, but I’ve only read the first two chapters, but the quote has really stuck with me and really helped me in life coping with the ups and downs of motherhood. I’m a brand new subscriber- today! because of this post- SO good, thanks you!
I've come back to this post to say thank you, Breanne: the phrase "You’re not doing anything wrong. It’s just hard." has helped me so much over the almost two months since I read it. Thank you!
Thank YOU for coming back to leave such a kind and encouraging note on this post. Hang in there, you're not alone! ❤️
Actually, supplements, chiropractic care and boundaries have changed my life! I totally get what you're saying, but perhaps life isn't all as hard as you're making out - perhaps you're neurodivergent, and/or struggling with depression.
Hey Jessica, I think you missed the footnote at the end of this post. Please read it. Your compassion and grace would be appreciated instead of making assumptions about a person whose medical history you don’t know. Thank you. ❤️
I did read the footnote before posting 😄 I think there is space on Substack for all opinions, and would advise that maybe you turn comments off on specific posts if you don't want to hear counter-comments?? I started chiropractic care a few weeks ago and am LOVING IT, it's made such a difference to an injury from a broken collarbone.
I welcome differing opinions but you didn’t offer a counter-comment. If you read the footnote, you’d see that I mentioned where chiropractor care has been helpful to me as well (I’m glad it’s helped you too!) so you were just agreeing with what I’d already stated.
What I took issues with—and have a boundary against—is someone coming to my page to attempt to diagnose me and say that “perhaps my life isn’t all that hard” when they know neither my health history or my life. It’s intrusive and unhelpful. Please respect that you don’t know me and I didn’t invite comments on my health or life. I hope you have a lovely day.
Man, I needed this today! I've been sucked into this mindset so many times. Thank you for the reminder and encouragement!
So honest and needed-Life is hard. I agree that there is a culture that says —if you do just do this, life will be better. And it does lead to guilt and shame because we don’t measure up.
But that’s why Jesus came and died for us-we can’t keep the Law (or our own rules), but He died for all our sins and failures so that we can live in newness of life-not a life focused on me, but on Him. A life of grateful humility, thankfulness and trust. A life where we are yoked with Christ, sharing in His suffering and in His glory. It is the already-not yet phase of life-we are already in Christ through faith, but not yet free of this earthly tent. Thanks for your honest writing.
So good! Yes to being equipped to do the work. Love that. Thanks for sharing your words!
Dear Lord, thank you for leading me to this reflection. I was just crying in bed at 3:30 in the afternoon about how tired I was of carrying the apparent responsibility for the well being of myself and everyone around me. I think I'll just try living instead of holding onto responsibility white-knuckled for a while.
Ummm can I like this more than once?! SO GOOD. And so true: "This is the tension we have to live with; fighting to erase it completely is wringing us dry." Thank you for speaking such truth with such grace and nuance, Breanne! I needed it today.
So good. A load went from my shoulders when I read “you’re not doing it wrong, it’s just hard.”
So, so refreshing. Just what I needed to hear today. Sometimes there are just way too many online voices; so much chatter. Stopping by Substack and reading authentic pieces like this is such a lovely shift.
This was rain to my parched soul today. Thank you.
Loved this. I will read it again and again. Thanks! 👏👏
I love the quote “Hard is not the same thing as bad” from Abbie at m is for mama. I got the book, but I’ve only read the first two chapters, but the quote has really stuck with me and really helped me in life coping with the ups and downs of motherhood. I’m a brand new subscriber- today! because of this post- SO good, thanks you!
Thank you for this piece ❤️ it feels like a breath of fresh air
I’m so glad it was helpful ❤️
Wow! This is so powerful! Amen!
Amen sister amen
So much wisdom here! Keep preaching!